How to Have a Sexual Dream?

Sexual dreams, also known as wet dreams, usually refer to dreams with sexual content that occur during sleep. These dreams are often linked with psychological factors, physiological environments, and various other factors. So, how can you guide yourself into such dreams? In the following, we will explain the steps to having a sexual dream in detail.

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Step 1: Understanding the Scientific Principles of Sexual Dreams

During sleep, the body goes through several different cycles, including light sleep, deep sleep, and Rapid Eye Movement (REM) sleep. Sexual dreams mostly occur during REM sleep, as this is when the brain is most active. Additionally, levels of sex hormones and neurotransmitters change during this time, affecting the nature of dreams. Research shows that 70% of people have experienced sexual dreams, which are closely related to the hormone levels in our bodies. Female sexual dreams mostly happen around ovulation, menstruation, and pregnancy, as sex hormone levels fluctuate during these times. In the days before menstruation, after ovulation, or just after your period, sex hormone levels are higher than usual, causing a doubling of female desire. If you want to experience a sexual dream, you should seize these moments. In males, hormone levels overall do not fluctuate much, so the chances of having sexual dreams due to hormonal stimulation are lower, with external stimuli playing a more significant role in such dreams.

Step 2: Relaxing Mind and Body

Ensuring relaxation of the mind and body before bed can help facilitate enjoyable sexual dreams. Here are some suggestions:

1. Deep Breathing Exercises:

Deep breathing can help relieve anxiety and tension, allowing the brain to enter a comfortable state. It is a simple but effective method to lower stress, alleviate anxiety, and improve focus. The following are the steps for deep breathing exercises:

1. Find a comfortable position: Lie down on a bed, ensuring that your back is straight and your shoulders are relaxed.

2. Close your eyes: Gently close your eyes to help focus on your breathing.

3. Slowly inhale: Open your nostrils and inhale deeply through your nose, allowing your chest and abdomen to fill with air. As you inhale, try counting to 4 to help maintain a steady breath.

4. Hold your breath: When your lungs are full, hold your breath for about 2 seconds before releasing the air.

5. Slowly exhale: Exhale gently through your mouth, allowing your chest and abdomen to contract while trying to count to 4, ensuring a steady breath. As you exhale, feel your body tension gradually dissipating and your muscles becoming more relaxed.

6. Continue the practice: Repeat the entire process 5 to 10 times, or as needed for your own comfort and needs. By observing and feeling your breath, you can better focus and relax.

7. End the exercise: After completing your deep breathing, take a few minutes to slowly open your eyes and do gentle stretching for your head, neck, and shoulders, returning to your daily life.

Please note, if you experience dizziness or discomfort while engaging in deep breathing, stop and seek advice from a professional. Maintain a natural rhythm and smoothness in your breath to achieve genuine relaxation.

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2. Avoiding Overexertion When Make Sexual Dream:

Make sure to have enough rest time before going to bed, which may sound strange. However, if you feel overly tired, your body will simply rest and won’t have time to create dreams.  It is best to not have engaged in self-pleasure, sexual activity, or used any sex toys within the past three days. A body craving sexual stimulation will be more likely to have sexual impulses in dreams.

Step 3: Reading or Watching Mild Erotic Content to Make Sexual Dream

Exposing yourself to some mildly suggestive content before falling asleep can stimulate your imagination, increasing the chances of sexual dreams. The more rich and detailed the material accumulated, the more vivid and complete your sexual dreams will be; conversely, fewer materials and a rougher script will result in more vague and empty dreams.

Step 4: Exploring and Understanding Your Own Sexual Desires

Taking the time to understand your own sexual needs and desires can be very beneficial in guiding yourself into corresponding dreams. Knowing your sexual preferences, fantasies, and emotional needs can help you better regulate your thoughts and behaviors.  For example, if you enjoy watching porn videos featuring the use of dog dildo, you can try to imagine more of this content.

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Step 5: Promoting Sleep Habits for Sexual Dreams

1. Create a favorable sleep environment:

Ensure your bedding is clean and comfortable, which is conducive to entering sexual dreams. Maintaining an appropriate room temperature, usually between about 18°C to 24°C (64°F to 75°F), helps improve sleep quality and dream occurrence. Reduce noise and light, and in a low-noise, low-light environment, your sleep experience will be even better.

2. Choose the right sleep position for Sexual Dream:

A study in the journal “Dreaming” suggests that a fixed sleep position can increase the likelihood of sexual dreams. Researchers found that, compared to other sleep positions, a sleep position with arms raised above the head and abdomen makes sexual dreams more likely. Furthermore, factors such as friction from your blanket, sleeping with your legs wrapped around a pillow, sleeping nude, or sleeping on your stomach can stimulate our sexual response system, activate our brains, and make sexual dreams more likely.

3. Disconnect electronic devices before sleeping:

Turn off your phone, laptop, and other electronic devices at least one hour before bedtime. The light emitted from screens can negatively interfere with our sleep at night, suppressing melatonin secretion.

4. Imagine your sexual dream partner before falling asleep:

Before bedtime, envision a vivid and intimate scene with your sexual dream partner in your mind. You can even write down your imagined scenario before sleeping. The more detailed you imagine your partner and the surrounding scenery, the more likely you are to successfully have a vivid dream. For better results, it is recommended to imagine a partner with whom you have already been intimate. Because this has actually happened, the sensory memories of touch, smell, and sight during sex can be drawn upon, providing a greater impact on your subconscious. Relax and let your brain remember the little details of your sexual dream partner, such as their scent, voice, and the feeling of their exposed skin.

How to attempt MILD lucid sexual dreaming techniques

MILD (Mnemonic Induction of Lucid Dreams) is a lucid dreaming technique developed by Dr. Stephen LaBerge, which combines meditation, conscious training, and memory techniques. Here are the steps to attempting MILD techniques to have sex dream:

1. Record dreams: Develop the habit of recording dreams every morning upon waking. Write down the details of the dream, including characters, plot, etc. This helps improve dream awareness and recall ability.

2. Identify dream signs: By recording dreams, find elements or scenes that appear repeatedly. These are called dream signs and can be used as markers for identifying lucid dreams.

3. Ensure adequate sleep: MILD techniques need to be performed during the rapid eye movement (REM) sleep stage, so make sure you get enough sleep each night. Sleep deprivation may hinder the occurrence of lucid dreams.

4. Try to stay awake and conscious: Maintain a state of awareness during the day by frequently asking yourself “Am I dreaming?” to maintain high alertness. This makes it easier to trigger lucid dreaming.

5. Apply mnemonic induction techniques: Perform the following steps before falling asleep:

     a. Relax and do prepared deep breathing exercises before sleeping.

     b. Recall a recent dream and gradually reproduce the dream’s details in your mind.

     c. As you recall the dream, find the sexual elements you want to experience and imagine realizing you are dreaming.

    d. Mentally recite statements like “Next time I dream of this situation, I will realize I am dreaming and explore sexually” while reviewing the dream.

   e. Repeat this process before falling asleep until your consciousness is fully immersed in the idea of inducing lucid sexual dreams.

6. Stay lucid when encountering dream signs: When encountering sexual signs in a dream, make sure to recognize that you are dreaming. Once you realize it is a dream, you can freely explore sexually in the lucid dream.

7. Establish a habit: Persistently practicing MILD techniques helps increase the probability of lucid sexual dreams occurring.

How to attempt SSILD techniques for sexual dreams

Senses Initiated Lucid Dream (SSILD) is a simplified lucid dreaming technique that induces lucid dreaming by focusing on body sensations and increasing sensory attention. Here’s how to try SSILD techniques for lucid sexual dreams:

1. Ensure adequate sleep: Like with MILD, SSILD techniques need to be performed during the rapid eye movement (REM) sleep stage, so make sure you get enough sleep each night. Sleep deprivation may hinder the occurrence of lucid dreams.

2. Find a suitable practice time: The best practice time for SSILD techniques is 4 to 5 hours after falling asleep when REM sleep is more concentrated, conducive to inducing lucid dreams. Set an alarm to wake yourself up for practice.

3. Relax after waking up: When the alarm goes off, try to stay awake. Rest in bed or in another comfortable position, then start practicing SSILD techniques.

4. Focus on sensory experiences: Perform deep breathing exercises in bed before sleep and then turn your attention to your body sensations to cultivate sensory awareness. To increase the chances of lucid sexual dreams, you can focus on sex-related sensory experiences, such as touch or emotions.

5. Cycle through sensory experiences: Focus on visual, auditory, and tactile senses for about 30 seconds to 1 minute each, then return to visual and repeat the cycle. Always maintain attention on sensory experiences; the more intense the experience, the greater the likelihood of inducing lucid dreams.

6. Go back to sleep: After completing the SSILD cycles, allow yourself to return to sleep, focusing on the sexual dreams you want to experience and try to bring these thoughts into your dream.

7. Stay lucid in the dream: Try to stay lucid and aware in the dream. Once you realize it is a dream, you can freely explore sexually in the lucid dream.

Please note that the effectiveness of MILD and SSILD techniques varies from person to person, and some people may successfully experience lucid sexual dreams within a shorter time while others may need more time and practice. Be patient and persistent during the process.


Finally, by following these steps, you should be able to experience a sexual dream. If unsuccessful, try to visualize it more before going to sleep, the more you think about it, the more likely you’ll succeed.

Emily Smith

Emily Smith

I have used various types of sex toys and have my own opinions and experiences. In addition, I have been studying relationships between genders because I believe that both sexual and interpersonal relationships should bring happiness.

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